Living without Expectations!

We keep coming across people disappointed with some thing that did not happen as they wished. Its most common that people expect things to plan a better life, calling it ‘planning’. But, did you ever think of the other side of ‘expectation’ ? If not, this article might interest you, where, it says ‘Expectation is the Cause of Grief’. Not being negative. Yes, its true, and you would feel the fact once you read this article.

Here it goes…Expectation is wishing something to happen the way we think about it or expect it to be. Some call it planning. But, in fact, planning is entirely different from expectation. Planning things is okay to streamline the processes, but, if coupled with expectation, the end-result might disappoint you. Here, is where one should have to identify a thin line between the planning and expectation.

Planning involves scheduling things, but are you ‘very sure’ about ‘future happening’? In such case, if you had expected it to happen as you thought, then you would end up in grief, as it did not happen as you wished, which is attributed to ‘uncertainty’ over future. Its might be ‘you’ who planned it, but you can’t assure the future of anything. You might be confident in your expectation, but the result need not happen according to your expectation. So, focus only on the task (result is incorporated in it already) and not the result of it. Various factors decide the future(its a different topic).

So, ‘plan and start execution without thinking about the result,’ as the holy Bhagavadgita says.

Is meditating observing breathe?

We see many defining meditation as the process of observing/concentrating breathe. According to experts in the related field, concentrating on air flow may, in fact, lead to negative effects most of the times, as air, apart from good, also contains other particulate matter, which might be harmful. So, concentrating on negative things might result in negative. Instead, the real method would be concentrating on ‘atman’. Again a hurdle, as ‘atman’/Prana inside, which is not visible/can’t be felt, immediately upon closing eyes. So, we will need a medium, which is ‘Japa’, a meditative repetition of name/some mantra (suggested by guru) or just the supreme sound, ‘Aum’, which is a matrix of all sounds. Meditating on the same takes you into deep Trans, where you feel the inner ‘atman’.

Overcoming ‘Instability in Thoughts’

Fluctuating/Instability of  thoughts is the process that involves random thoughts taking over your thinking process. Multiple thoughts keep coming up in mind, avoiding you from confining to one particular thought and make a needed decision.

Instability/fluctuation in thoughts is the basic problem for many. In the today’s busy life style, having a standard thought process is not that easy, as we involve in ‘n’ number of tasks, from waking up in the morning to sleeping at night. This continuous process of instability in thoughts results in lack of focus/concentration, loss of memory, frustration, headache out of overthinking, among others. Here is where people find ways, such as Yoga, meditation, among other well-known methods, to get away with thought fluctuation and remain focused.

This article helps you identify solution in the problem itself. Here is one more simple process through which help you overcome the problem of thought fluctuation and boost your focus.

Here it goes….Fluctuation resulting in loss of stability in thoughts, resulting in continuous diversion, restraining us from taking required decision. As the thoughts’ origin and destination are moving randomly, try filling your required thought in every other random thought your mind is generating. With this, all your random thoughts are filled with a single subject, i.e, your required subject, which you filled in everywhere. So, then overall thoughts might be in numbers, but the point/subject of focus will be one. So, finally you could stably think on one single subject that you wanted, thus overcoming instability.

Hence Proved!

Want to control your anger?

Anger is the most common thing that most of us keep fighting with. Anger may be a result of argument, bad mood, helplessness, intolerance, among many others. The reasons that lead us to anger clearly define our anger. Its the situations that make us helpless and its the helplessness within that drives anger. So, the anger is not because someone/ some situation has done something to us, its all about ‘us repeatedly recalling our incapability in not acting against something that resulted in anger’, be it good or bad. Its not actually the situation, its the response to the situation coming from within, that is making you angry, blaming you for your helpless state. This inner element that is instigating anger is  ‘Ego’. So, based on the above argument, we can come to a consensus that ‘we get anger when our ego is hurt’. So, to satisfy our ego we are bursting out at something/someone. Then, who is facing the consequence? Our Ego? No, its we who will be facing the consequence. So, to be simple, we are being used by our ego. 

Think! You have no role to play, but you are facing the consequence for satisfying something else. 

Ignore your ego to overcome anger. Following ways can help you out :

  • Calm down for a while

  • Have some water

  • Leave the place for a while

  • Start counting numbers within

  • Divert your mind onto something else

  • Then, empty your mind completely

  • Inhale and Exhale for three times, concentrating on the breathe

  • Now, you feel some freshness around you!

  • Congrats! You  controlled your anger